Dive Deeper: Loneliness

Dive Deeper: Loneliness

While in this period of isolation, I filled journal after journal with pity parties.
Why won’t anyone ask me out to lunch?
I wish someone would ask ME to the Natalie Grant concert.
I want a best girl friend to have play dates with SO badly.

Because I had believed the lie of the enemy, my isolation became deeper, wider and more suffocating.
I wish I could express how sick to death I am of how the enemy works on the hearts of women.  I have gotten such a revelation of this in the years since what I called “the deep dark” or this time I felt so alone.
We MUST recognize what is going on in our hearts and minds.

Regardless of what season of life you are in right now, his schemes are the same.

—Isolation will….destroy healthy relationships
For example, during this time, simple, well meaning advice given by a loved one would be twisted and blown out of proportion.  In an effort to get me offended, the enemy would distort what was actually said and cause hurt to be planted in my heart, therefore severing a relationship.

—Isolation will…cut you off from community.
I love this SO much!
This is one reason why I feel the need to have our Hen Parties.  I’m so excited for them and I hope you’ll join us!  God would love nothing more than for us to get together and encourage one another!  Matthew 18:20 says that “where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”  BOOM. Power in numbers.

–Isolation will keeps us from walking in the Spirit and showing fruit.  
Galatians 5 says, “Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”  (can I say Facebook?!) Back up some and Paul is talking about the fruits of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control

If I’m cut off from community, and have a heart full of offense and broken relationships, then I can’t bear fruit and then I am of no use to God’s kingdom.

So what do we do now?
1) Galatians 5:25 says to Keep in step with the Spirit or “choose a moment by moment life that is guided by the Spirit of the Lord.” Are your thoughts and actions lining up with the fruit of the Spirit?
2) When you start to feel the spirit of isolation or fear come over you, test those thoughts or actions against Phil. 4:8: Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.
Fill your minds on things: true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling and gracious

Practice these things and keep in step with the Spirit daily, hourly, minute by minute.
Soon, your fears and isolation will be a tiny blip.
Your heart will be full of the Savior’s love for you and you’ll have an abundance of fruit to share with others.


I’m a book-shelving, former tap dancer, wanna be writer, singer, and banjo player, mother of 4, wife of 1, follower of Christ, walking in the shadow of the Proverbs 31 woman and redeemed by the grace and love of an Almighty God… just living the dream.

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